Only da best watch porn
You don’t like pornography? Why? Because it is two people or more fucking one another? So what? What will it change in your life that two people you don’t know and who probably don’t give a shit about you are having sex? Do you feel insecure about yourself?
Well don’t.
Let me tell you a story. A story with penises, imagination, power, dominance.
No, I am not talking about game of thrones, I am talking about pornography.
Come with me, come down into the rabbit hole.
What is pornography?
« Pornography is the shameless representation of sexual practices » according to my french dictionary.
That is the beginning of an answer. Notice the word « shameless », inducing already a moral judgment.
I would like to focus on visual pornography here. And if I'm interested in this particular pornography it's because it's correlated with male pornography. Pornography found in novels or even some type of comics like yaoi are more correlated with females.
The abominable thought that people may enjoy watching sex is an offense to different virtue league that need to control others’ sexuality. Including what other should have the right to watch or fantasise about.
So, why do people take pleasure in watching people copulate?
One theory would be that men have evolved to find a young woman naked and ready to copulate extremely stimulating, thus leading to copulation. Being able to copulate quickly as soon as the opportunity arises could be a reproductive benefit.
This, of course, does not prevent women from looking at it either. One study has even suggested that women love porn as much as men, but moral, social, evolutionary stigmas make women have a much more confrontational relationship with it. 1 But I will come back to it.
Porn was not born in the twentieth century with television or internet. Humans and sex is a long love hate romance, inevitably.
Statues with prominent penises, paintings, frescoes, all possible mediums have been since the beginning of times used to externalize our instinct and our libidinal imagination. With the arrival of new mediums such as photography or television, our passion for sex is also available on these new media.
Not to mention that what we could take with our contemporary eyes for pornography is not necessarily seen as such according to times and civilizations.
But today with the arrival of new means of expression I see in my crystal ball that virtual reality headsets will be a lucrative market too. It's time to invest!
Pornography is evil! (Or not)
Pornography (for the male) seems to be a major health problem since social networks have given a voice to the least tolerant.
Obviously controlling the male erection, where his sperm and his energy goes is a fight at all times. I can understand that. Men are stronger physically, having all those arms, full of vigor obeying you may be very useful.
There are still men who think that by blowing themselves up they will have 72 virgins in heat who will wait for them. This means that sex and its frustration is a central element of human control.
The religion has understood it well, the incels have understood it, and the women have understood it as well. In fact everybody understands it but everyone expresses it differently.
As purely speculative I could try some explanations approaches.
For the religious, sex is linked to moral. Moral virtue leads to heaven and hapiness. Since they control moral, they control sex, and by controlling sex you control people.
For women it's about controlling access to sex: a heterosexual man needs a woman to have sex. But a man who does not need a woman, enjoying himself on porn rather than competing for a female attention is a loss of partner for women. And a loss of power too (« I don’t need you, I have everything I need, so I don’t have to help you in any way.)
There is also obviously a lack of knowledge and a fear of male sexuality. And it's quite confrontational because women also watch, and women also masturbate.
It is nice to have a democratization of porn, but we can not help but associate a guilt that has no place to be.
For incels, fight against pornography is a fight against society grip and dominance over men. To put it simply after jerking off a man doesn’t feel the need to fight anymore, so porn prevents men to express their virile potential.
(why do you think female bonobos have a lot of sex with male? Not only for reproduction, but also for peace making)
As a female, erotist novelist and porn drawing artist I learned a lot about people through porn.
anyway, I can tell you that anti masturbation and anti porn sites are very far from bastions of feminism unlike ... porn consumers.
it is quite disturbing to see religion, feminists and incels find themselves on the same ground. But that is just my humble opinion.
Vade retro satanas
Porn is the source of all evils, it succeeds:
-1 to be misogynist / degrading for the woman
-2 to objectify the woman
-3 to be violent / to provoke violence / to promote rape
-4 to provoke male infertility
-5 to interfere in the life of couples
-6 to make addict
-7 to be shot in horrible conditions
Aaaand
-to promote global warming. Yes please don’t laugh.
I will answer point by point:
-1 the big porn consumers are more like fanboys than anything else.2 They are not misogynists, nor are normal people suddenly catching the misogyny virus through the movie they watch. On the contrary. For the few men, and they are rare, to love more violent porn, it is not the movies that made them misogynistic and antisocial, but the fact that they were already. (It is not the stimulus that finds us but we who seek it)
In fact, don’t think that women only goes for a nicy sweetie gang bang in porn. They have desires too and it can be quite violent 5(So goes the myth of the delicate flower, well, au revoir)
-2 The objectification of the woman's body in porn is an absurd idea. objectification would mean that we compare a human being to an object. I do not think the average person who masturbates on a woman would do it for say ... a chair. I do not have many friends around me who dream of copulating with a glass of water, and I would be a little afraid for my glasses in this case. (My mother gave them to me, this is precious).
Yes, there is a naked woman who has sex with another person and we see everything they do. Oh dear!
If the naked bodies of stunning and sexually desirable women very well paid, (even better than men) to have sex give you a heart attack, it is time to ask yourself questions about the sexual freedom that you want to restrict to consenting adults and your own complexes. It tells a lot about you in fact.
Moreover this "objectification" of the woman body seems much less problematic for gay porn movies. As if suddenly it was more immoral to put a copulation between a woman and a man rather than a copulation between two men ...
-3 Ah, tough luck, studies refute our fantasies of violence in porn. The porn consumers take more pleasure in seeing a woman enjoy than suffer (see my first point). 3, 4. One of the reasons for this myth worthy of the Loch Ness monster is that « men would get used to a type of porn thus having less stimuli and would ask for more sensation Thus seeking for more intense porn ». Ridiculous myth. In fact, based on the figures of pornhub, violent content is rather anecdotal and becomes even more rare. It simply does not attract much people.
Does porn make men violent then? Again, another horrific bedtime story for teenagers, and again a study shows a happy coincidence between porn and drop of sexual violence. Oh but I see you, little doubtful monster "correlation is not causality" Absolutely. But... just go take a look in countries where porn and sex are taboo, where sexual frustration of young horny men is the norm, tell me again how these countries are absolute paradise for women. I have the feeling that you will not be disappointed with the result ...
-5 porn can interfere in the life of couples. Yes it can! And you can make it bad... or good! It depends how we see that. Women think that their husbands who watches porn think of them as less desirable than the image offered by the screen, they even feel as their men are cheating on them. 8 8But men seek above all and above all novelties more than a new sexual partner. It cuts the monotony of the relationship. For couples, who are watching together, this sexual revival can be a new spicy boost to relationship. It worked for the best for me and my 23 years marriage partner.
-6 « Yes yes it is beautiful but porn makes you an addict! It is my neighbour who goes to church everyday who told me that » Aaaaaand... no. Again. Porn does not make you an addict.
But the more you link sex to this sacrosanct morality, the more you will tend to believe in its addictive potential.
Except science has proven that porn is not addictive.1010 To make it simple, the more you are religious and / or the more conservative and / or your education and your sexual vision is rigid, the more you will feel guilty, ashamed and angry at yourself for wanting to watch it again, so you will come to the narrative that you must be addicted.
What is certain is that it allows to make a lucrative market of deviance around this notion. The clinics that treat this non-disease have found the vein!
But especially as sex therapist Dr. David J. Ley says: "the danger in the misuse of sexual addiction is the clearing of criminal behavior and the imposition of conservative values"
-7 Shootings are often badly described by women, I can answer that many shootings out of porn have been badly experienced by the actors. Did you know that in Francis Ford Coppola's "apocalypse now" Martin Sheen suffers a cardiac arrest? Did you know that in the film "Abyss" by James Cameron the director almost died on the set? Did you know that Uma Thurman had an accident on kill bill? Do you know the number of stunt dead on the filming of stock films? How many this year? Mmmmm? I’m sorry I cannot hear you.
Do you think it is less serious?
However I can understand to a certain point those complaints. In porn and more for the woman, there is the shame of sex the leagues of virtues are putting on her. And the female sexual intracompetition.
Notice that porn critics all relate to the attack on women. The question of the man in porn does not even arise! Yet this being called « male » who is indifferent to us is not insignificant.
Imposing penis representations can indeed cause more marked complexes in men. The vision of these competing penises causes in any case a reaction of uncertainty about their own potential.
On the other hand, in the world of porn, if women are better paid than men, and also better known, men remain only an impersonal penis.11
There is also another notion that seems so obvious that it is no longer so: a porn is a movie. There is a difference between fantasies and reality. We laugh at religious groups that incriminate Harry Potter for vicious spread of witchcraft, I think that we can reasonably classify a non-amateur porn film as more of a sci-fiction movie than a sociological documentary.
So chill out honey, there you have your answers. This is the end of the travel down to the rabbit hole. Did you like it? There you see, there is a light, go spread the truth little Alice, take care, love you!
On this, I wish you to enjoy life and your partner, peace and love
1 https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/sex-photos-arousal-men-women-porn-study-a9006156.html
3 https://www.tandfonline.com/do
4 https://medicalxpress.com/news
5 https://www.vice.com/en_nz/article/bm9w7v/why-are-so-many-women-searching-for-ultra-violent-porn
6 https://onlinelibrary.wiley.co
7 https://www.sciencedirect.com/
8 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5039517/
9 https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-012-0034-4#/page-1
11 https://www.vice.com/en_uk/article/8x54y3/just-a-dick-the-sad-reality-of-being-a-male-porn-star